I am a white male. I am a middle-aged lawyer who has been director of a state judicial ethics agency for many years. I hire and supervise staff, teach law students, appear regularly on legal education panels, and interact with all facets of the legal profession.
I am an ally. I believe women’s rights are human rights. And I will fight for those rights. I choose to be associated, I choose to assist, I choose to listen and learn, I choose to bring more than just words to the table. I choose to bring actions.
But, what can I really do? How can I turn being philosophically in agreement into some sort of action that is helpful? I always nodded in agreement when I listened to others discuss the difficulties women faced in the legal workplace. Surely, I could do more than just be a “good guy” and agree in principle. I knew I did not want to act like I fully understood what female lawyers and judges have had to face just to be in the profession.
Like many men, I was unaware of some problems. I helped as much as I knew how, but certainly missed opportunities for positive change that I just never noticed. As years have gone by, I have had the time to reflect. I have listened and learned from my female colleagues. I have witnessed misogyny and inequality in forums that are supposed to be the hallmarks of respect and fairness. These incidents occurred in the past 10 years.
Then in the wake of the #MeToo movement, I was asked to present about sexual misconduct in the judicial workplace. As a judicial conduct commission attorney, I had worked on three noteworthy cases where judges had been removed from office because of sexual harassment or misconduct. The judicial workplace can be a very secretive environment. That has afforded nefarious judges the opportunity to hide sexual misconduct. The cases out of Arkansas shined a light into some of the worst examples of judicial behavior with staff and defendants.
All three of the judges we confronted were permanently banned from the bench. I was asked to join a panel of distinguished attorneys and present on the subject. It is a strange thing to be the only man in a conference room full of women. The panel I was speaking on that day was entitled #WeToo, and it was focused on sexual harassment and misconduct in the judicial and legal workplace. The panel was part of the keynote message for the National Association of Women Judges 2018 annual meeting in conjunction with the Congressional Caucus for Women’s Issues.
I have heard men speak out about being afraid to join the discussion on gender equality. They worry that they will “say something wrong” or somehow not be welcomed. The opposite is true. Not only have I been welcomed, but I have also been able to learn how to identify insidious and harmful actions towards women easier than I did before. Since then, I have worked on a gender equality policy paper, spoken on panels and published articles in my role as an ally.
Becoming an ally is simple. Start by standing up for equality. Allied men should make it obvious that we are on the side of equal rights for women. Just openly identifying as a supporter can have an effect. As Robert F. Kennedy stated, “Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope…”
Men in the legal profession who interact, hire, work for, teach with, appear in front of and otherwise communicate with women can make an impact in everyday decisions.
Remember these simple principles: